Does ‘Mrs. (Her Given + Surname)’ Mean Divorced?
What’s the distinction between Miss, Ms., and Mrs. We have a visitor coming with his spouse and we are told that we should call her either Mrs. (Husband’s first name and last name) or (Her first name and his last name). e.g. Mrs. Paul Smith or Carla Smith … but not to call her Mrs. Carla Smith as that would imply, she is divorced. What’s that about?
Here are some things to consider:
She’s defined she is coming as a ‘wife of” and is following the traditionally rules. When a wife uses the same surname as her husband the traditional form of address is:
—-—-Mrs. (Husband’s complete name)
—-Salutation and conversation:
—-—-Mrs. (Husband’s family name)
Many women who come a spouse are O.K. with being Mrs. (Husband’s Full Name). They are being included as a spouse, not invited on their own.
—-In an oral introduction here are two wordings:
—-—-May I introduce Mrs. (Surname)
—-—-May I introduce ‘(Woman’s first name) (Surname)
This is how traditional etiquette refences show it. E.g., it’s how the wife of the President (POTUS) – The First Lady – is addressed. For instance, the wife of Bush-43 would be ‘Mrs. George W. Bush’, ‘Mrs. Bush’ or ‘Laura Bush’.
Hillary Rodham Clinton didn’t mind ‘Mrs. Clinton’, but did not want to be addressed as ‘Mrs. William J. Clinton’ …. and requested to be addressed as ‘Mrs. Clinton’ and referred to as ‘First Lady, Hillary Rodham Clinton’.
Yes … Mrs. (Woman’s given name) (Husband’s Family Surname) … is the format traditionally used by divorced women. Traditional etiquette references state the form is used by a divorced woman who wants to keep using her former husband’s surname, but can no longer use Mrs. (Husband’s Given Name) (Family Name). Her former husband might have remarried and there would be a new Mrs. (Husband’s Given Name) (Family Name).
Some married women don’t care what’s ‘traditional’ and what’s not. They like ‘Mrs. (Woman’s given name) (Husband’s Family Surname)’. It states their marital status and includes their given name.
– Robert Hickey