How to use Sir
How to use Ma’am

How to Address a ‘Sir’

‘Sir’ is not a rank or office. But it is an honorific used in addressing a British knight: Sir Paul (Paul McCartney), Sir Elton (Elton John).

Follow the link to Knight for those forms of address.

– Robert Hickey How to use Maam


How to Use Sir and Ma’am

I have been wondering about the use of the word Sir. Calling men Sir often and it results in negativity. Would you be so kind as to elaborate on the proper use of the word Sir?
__________-– S.L. How to use Maam

Dear S.L.:
Sir and Ma’am are formal.

In hierarchical organizations and environments these are signs of respect. For example, in the armed services it’s standard to address anyone of higher in rank (e.g. officers by enlisted personnel) by (Rank)+(Name) first, then as Sir/Ma’am thereafter.

In formal households children might be taught to address their elders and Sir and Ma’am. Thus, to many it is appropriate to use these when addressing someone older.

I take a spin class every Saturday — the instructor always calls me Sir … Because (I think it is his reasoning) he has noticed that I am by far the oldest person in class.  I think it’s funny, but I bet not everyone would.

If someone is reacting negatively, they probably are very egalitarian and don’t like the lower/higher relationship implied — or they think you are implying they are old.

Try Good Morning rather than Good Morning, Sir.

– Robert Hickey   How to use Maam

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