How to Address a Lord or Lady

Lord or Lady?   1, 2, 3, 4!

Being a ‘Lord’ or ‘Lady’ is not a noble rank: it is an honorific used in conversation, or a salutation, with certain members of the nobility. To address a ‘Lord’ or ‘Lady’ in writing you need to more information.

—-#1) Find out the rank they hold:
—-—-(A) marquess/marchioness, earl/countess, viscount/viscountess, or baron/baroness
—-—-(B) A son, wife of a son or a daughter of a duke/duchess or a marquess/marchioness.

—-#2)  If (A) … once you are certain of the rank held by the individual check the specific form of address for the rank in the list of links at right on this page.

—-#3) If (B) … the younger sons and daughters of a duke/duchess or marquess/marchioness are addressed in writing as ‘Lord/Lady (first and surname)’ and ‘Lord/Lady (first name)’ in a salutation or in conversation.

—-#4) If (B) … the wives of younger sons of a duke/duchess or marquess/marchioness are addressed in writing as ‘Lady (husband’s first and surname)’ and in a salutation or in conversation ‘Lady (husband’s first name)’ .

– Robert Hickey

Rock Royalty Meets Authentic Royalty?

I saw in the paper that Lady Gaga was presented to Queen Elizabeth II. Is Lady Gaga really a “Lady”?
———————–– New York Times Reader

Dear NYT-R:
Lady Gaga (“Poker Face,” “Just Dance,” “Paparazzi” … ) is not a Lady in the way the British use the title. She is really Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta of the New York, New York Germanottas. Formally one would address her as Ms. Germanotta, although I admit probably no one does.

A Lady in the U.K. use of the honorific would be a woman #1) holding the rank of Marchioness, Countess, Viscountess, or Baroness …  #2) be the wife of a man holding one of those noble ranks … #3) or be married to a Baronet or Knight#4) or be a Life Peeress in her own right.

It seems unlikely that Stefani Germanotta is any of those. But the photo in the New York Times made it look as though she delivered a very dignified performance when she was presented to Her Majesty.

— Robert Hickey

Not Finding Your Question Answered?

—-#1)  At right on desktops, at the bottom of every page on tablets and phones, is a list of all the offices, officials & topics covered on the site.

—-#2)  After checking the list and reading the posts, if you don’t see your question answered send me an e-mail. I am pretty fast at sending a reply: usually the next day or so (unless I am traveling.)  Note: I don’t have mailing or Email addresses for any of the officials and I don’t keep track of offices that exist only in history books.

—-#3)  If I think your question is of interest to others, I will post the question & answer – always changing the names and specifics.

— Robert Hickey

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