How to Include a Woman’s Given Name?
When a couple uses the same last name, traditional sources drop the woman’s given name:
——-Mr. & Mrs. John Minton
——-Dr. & Mrs. John Minton
I don’t want to do that.
——–—–——–— Jeane A.
Dear Jeane W.,
Just write each name fully. Put the full names in the “Mr. and Mrs. Order” Men first, ladies second:
——–Mr. John Minton and Mrs. Jeane Minton
——–Dr. John Minton and Mrs. Jeane Minton
An elegant, less formal solution is not to use any honorifics. When using this form, traditionalists say you keep the man’s name together. When you don’t have honorifics then you use the ladies first order:
——–Jeane and John Minton
And, I realize, this is form is not going acceptable to doctors, ambassadors, military officers and judges, etc. who will want their rank included with their name. I have pages on writing military couples and official couples too. So see those.
— Robert Hickey
See the photo below. Notice most use this order: ladies first. But as you can se others prefer other forms: Man first and the traditional Mr. & Mrs. So I recommend the first form, but realize that some couples will have a different preference. It’s their name, so they should get it the way they like.
Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"