How to Address a Fiancé or Fiancée

How to Include a Fiancé or Fiancée on an Invitation?

I am in a dilemma: I need to send an invitation to a gentleman and his fiancée; I love them both dearly and they already live together so I can mail one invitation. Can you help me please?
—-—-—-– Jocelyn J

Dear Jocelyn J:

Here are some options, but be sure to read the NOTE that follows and the next post too.

—-The normal form to use on the envelope is:
——–Mr. Henry Smith
—-—-Ms. Nancy Wilson

—-Or, if you know she uses ‘MISS’
—-—-Mr. Henry Smith
—-—-Miss Nancy Wilson

NOTE: Etiquette books put an ‘and’ between names if they are married …. no ‘and’ if they are not.  Since they are unmarried, I showed it without an ‘and’.

– Robert Hickey  How to address a Fiancé or Fiancée

—-See These Related Posts:
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—-—-Couples: Military
—-—-Couples: U.S. Officials
—-—-Couples: Same Sex

How to Address an Engaged Couple?

How would you address an invitation’s envelope to a pastor and his fiancée?

– DM   How to Address a Fiancé or Fiancée

Dear DM:

You don’t tell me a lot about the details, but here are some traditional rules for issuing invitations to pairs of people:

#1) Issue an individual invitation to each. This works best when they have different mailing addresses.

#2) Issue an invitation to one person and invite that person to bring a guest. If you don’t know his fiancée this is probably best. Tell the pastor to get you the name of his fiancée so you can have their name in advance for all the standard reasons.

#3) Issue a joint invitation to the pair because they present themselves as a couple. This works best when you know they have the same mailing address.

#4) If you put an ‘and’ in front of the second name it implies they are married. So in this case just list the names without an ‘and’ between them.

—-Seems like you want to issue them a single invitation. Here is the formula:
—-—-Name of the intended guest on the first line
—-—-Name of their guest on a second line

—-In your case the formula will be:
—-—-His full name on the first line
—-—-Her full name on a second line

—-—-The Reverend (Full Name)
—-—-Ms. (Full Name)

—-Less formally
—-—-Pastor (Full Name)
—-—-Ms. (Full Name)

– Robert Hickey How to Address a Fiancé or Fiancée

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