How to Address a Family with Different Surnames?
I kept my maiden name and use it both professionally and socially (Angie Wilson). We now have a son with my husband’s last name (Husband: Tom Smith, Son: Taylor Smith). If someone were to send an invitation to the family, how would they address it?
—-What about: How to Address a Family
——–The Smith Family
—-—-The Smith-Wilson Family
—-—-Mr. and Ms. Smith Wilson and Master Taylor Smith
—-—-The Tom, Angie and Taylor Smith & Wilson Family
—-—-—-—-– Angie Smith-Wilson
Dear Ms. Smith-Wilson,
If you are going to (1) jettison ‘Wilson’ and use ‘Smith’ or (2) want the hypenated version – ‘Smith-Wilson’ – you should decide that and tell everyone it’s your preference so they can use it.
But, here is a way it’s done:
When people are addressed as a ‘unit/couple/family’ have different surnames – each gets their name written out fully:
—-—-Mr. Thomas Smith
—-—-and Ms. Angie Wilson
When they have children – children are included last, typically oldest to youngest if there are several:
——–Mr. Thomas Smith
—-—-Ms. Angie Wilson
—-—-and Mr. Taylor Smith
Regarding ‘Mr. Taylor Smith’ vs. ‘Master Taylor Smith’ for your son. I’d suggest you use ‘Mr. Taylor Smith’. ‘Master (Full Name)’ is the form shown in many etiquette books for very young boys. But except in the most conservative circles it’s rarely used nowadays. A traditional Grandmother is about the only one who might send a card to a young grandson and address the envelope as:
—-—-Master Taylor Smith
– Robert Hickey How to Address a Family