How to Address a Divorcée?
Formulas for how we create names is the domain of etiquette … and by definition etiquette is specific to a group. The way flags are displayed at the Pentagon is fixed by international protocol. How we name ourselves is a bit of a free-for-all where everyone invents whatever they think, and their group thinks, is appropriate.
Currently divorced woman typically chooses one of the following:
—–#1) Go back to her maiden name. That works best if there are no children from the marriage
—–#2) Use Ms. (Her Full Name)
—–If she prefers #2 and uses Mrs. (Her Given Name) (Married Surname) she’s choosing a form some sources suggest to be for a divorced woman. See etiquette authors Amy Vanderbilt, Emily Post, Cranes, Letitia Baldrige, etc. See below. How to Address a Divorcée
Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"
Regarding ‘Mrs. (Her Given Name)+(His Family Name)’
Traditional etiquette references state using Mrs. + (Woman’s Given name) + (Family name) is the form used by a divorced woman. Perhaps she prefers to keep using her former husband’s family name, but can no longer use Mrs. (Husband’s Given Name) (Family Name) because her former husband might have remarried and there would be a new Mrs. (Husband’s Given Name) (Family Name). Thus, she uses her given name with Mrs.
—–But some still-married women don’t care what is identified as ‘traditional’ in etiquette books – and prefer Mrs. (Woman’s Given name) (Family name) … thus stating their marital status and including their given name. For more on this see Mrs.vs. Ms.
———– Robert Hickey divorcee