How to Address an Earl or Countess

How to Address an Earl
How to Address a Countess

Examples:
—-The Earl Ferrers
—-The Earl of Coventry
—-The Earl of Shrewsbury and Waterford

When an earldom has a compound name, (name one)’ of/and ‘(name two)’, use name one when (name) is specified and the full compound name when the (complete name) is specified.

The given name of the titled person is never used in formal address. British style books show the courtesy title abbreviated as shown below.

Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"

—-Envelope or address block on letter or email:
——The Right Hon.
—-—-The Earl (complete name)
—-—-(Address)

—-—-The Right Hon.
—-—-The Countess (complete name)
—-—-(Address)

—-—-The Right Hon.
—-—-The Earl and Countess (complete name)
—-—-(Address)

—-Letter salutation:
—-—-Dear Lord/Lady (name):

– Robert Hickey  How to Address an Earl  How to Address a Countess

See Below:  The Earl and Countess of Grantham, from the PBS Series Downton Abbey were addressed as Lord Grantham and Lady Grantham. Earl and countess are not used in a salutation or conversation. Photo courtesy © Carnival Productions 2017.

Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"

How to Address an Earl, Countess, and Their Sons?

#1)  Can an Earl and Countess either be called Earl of Richland and Countess of Richland, -or-  Lord and Lady Richland?
#2) If the father is the Marquess and the son is a Viscount, can a father and eldest son both be Lord (Surname) at the same time?
#3) I understand that the younger son can be called Lord by courtesy, but please clarify about the eldest son for me.
————————— LBT

Dear LBT:
British titles aren’t easy … unless you are raised with them!  The British style books give directions on what to do rather than just the answer … so I wrote my book for those of us who want just the facts and fast.

#1) Can an Earl and Countess either be called Earl of Richland and Countess of Richland –or- Lord and Lady Richland?

An earl/countess is addressed in oral conversation as Lord (Name) / Lady (Name).   Earl and countess are use only in written address, Someone might orally refer to the earl/countess by his or her title when speaking about the earl/countess to a third person such as in “the Earl of Richland will be here in 20 minutes.”   In spoken address it is  Lord (Name / Lady (Name)

#2) Can a father and eldest son both be a Lord (Surname) at the same time?

The (name) in the title may or may not be their surname … So don’t think of it as Lord (Surname) think of it as Lord (Name of Earldom).  Only the titled person (the father) is addressed as Lord (name of title) … so a son would not be addressed as Lord based on that title until the title passes, when his father dies … but read the next note.

#3) Maybe the father is the Marquess and the son is a Viscount? I understand that the younger son can be called “lord” by courtesy, but please clarify about the eldest son for me.

Actually the father is both the Marquess and the Viscount. He is addressed by his highest title and the lower title is not used. So the eldest son (who will be inheriting the titles) can use ‘Viscount’ — one of his father’s unused titles — during his father’s lifetime.

There’s a different formula for younger sons … who are Honourable and Mr. (Surname) … and have no title to pass on. And yes — in this case (Surname) is their family name.

— Robert Hickey

See these Related Posts: --------King/Queen --------Duke/Duchess --------Marquess/Marchioness --------Earl/Countess --------Viscount/Viscountess --------Baron/Baroness --------Knight/Dame--------Noble Titles: Social Use Only

Forms of Address: How a conversation begins can have a huge impact on how the conversation - even the entire relationship - develops.

How to Address a Dowager?

Duchess, Marchioness, Countess, Viscountess or Baroness

_________

Dowager

Does one address a Dowager as one would the nobleman’s wife? I am a minister and have a Dowager in my parish. Do you think Duchess (first name) or Dear Duchess of (Somewhere), more suitable? How to address a dowager?
— D.W.

Dear D.W.
British style guides suggest in oral conversation with a duchess you use: Your Grace
—-—-In a salutation: Dear Duchess:

The style guides further suggest in oral conversation with a marchioness, countess, viscountess or baroness you use: Lady (Name):  where (Name) is the name of the marquessate, earldom, viscountcy, or barony.
—-—-In a salutation with a marchioness: My Madam: or Dear Lady:
—-—-With a countess, viscountess or baroness: Dear Lady:

But there is a difference is how one ‘describes’ the d0wager or addresses the dowager in writing.  This is determined by how the individual dowager styles herself.

In writing – on an envelope or in full introduction – style books present two ways. These formulas works for duchess, marchioness, countess, viscountess and baroness:

Formula #1 …. The Dowager (Full Title)
—-—-Example: The Dowager Duchess (of Place)

—-Formula #2 …. (Name), (Complete name of rank)
—-—-Example: Mary, Duchess (of Place)
—-—-—-Which is the form the dowager Duchess of Devonshire who died in 2014 used:
—-—-—-—-Deborah Cavendish, Duchess of Devonshire

To be certain which formula this dowager prefers, see if she has a personal secretary who can advise which style the individual prefers.

— Robert Hickey  How to address a dowager?

See these Related Posts: --------King/Queen --------Duke/Duchess --------Marquess/Marchioness --------Earl/Countess --------Viscount/Viscountess --------Baron/Baroness --------Knight/Dame--------Noble Titles: Social Use Only

Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"

When Should You Use the Forms on this Page?

You can use these forms of address for any mode of communication: addressing a letter, invitation, card or Email. (If there are differences between the official and social forms of address, I will have mentioned the different forms.)  The form noted in the salutation is the same form you say when you say their name in conversation or when you greet them.

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— Robert Hickey 

Robert Hickey author of "Honor & Respect"