Abbess,
    Christian Orthodox       
Abbot,
    Christian Orthodox        
Accountant        
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Adjutant General     
Admiral         
Admiral, Texas Navy   
Adventist Minister       
Alderman         
Archbishop, Catholic        
Archbishop,
   Christian Orthodox        
Archdeacon, Episcopal        
Archimandrite        
Architect
Archpriest        
Ambassador to the U.S.
   from a foreign country      
Ambassador of the U.S.        
American Indian Chief        
Assemblyman
   U.S., State / or           
   Assemblywoman            
Associate Justice,
   U.S. Supreme Court          
Associate Justice of a
   State Supreme Court
Astronaut      
Attorney         
Attorney General           
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       Assistant   
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Australian Officials    

Baron, Baroness           
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   Christian Orthodox          
Bishop, Catholic            
Bishop,
   Christian Orthodox         
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Board Member     
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Business Cards      

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Captain,
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Chaplain in the
    Armed Services        
Chaplain of Congress          
Chargé d’Affaires         
Chief Executive Officer 
Chief Judge          
Chief Justice,
      U.S. Supreme Court 
Chief Justice, of a State
      Supreme Court             
Chief of Police          
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   Officer          
Child            
Chiropractor     
City Manager    
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Colonel, USA, USAF,
    or USMC     
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Congressman, U.S.               
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   Consul General    
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    Councilwoman      
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Curator        

Dalai Lama          
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Dentist             
Deputy Chief of Mission      
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Designate, Elect,
    Pro Tempore      
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Doctor, Chiropractor     
Doctor of Dentistry           
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   Veterinary Medicine          
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Earl            
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   Pro Tempore      
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Eminence     
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   Third, etc.        
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   the United States 
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   or Lt. Gov.    
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General
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Girl
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Invitations  
   Writing &  
   Addressing  
Invitations
    Military:
    Writing &
    Addressing

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        US Count     
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     Supreme Court
Justice, Associate
     State
     Supreme Court

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Knight      

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   (deceased persons)        
Lawyer      
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Lieutenant General,
   USA, USAF, USMC      
Lieutenant Governor         

How to Address a Fiancee

How to Include a Fiancee on an Invitation?
       I am in a dilemma: I need to send an invitation to an gentleman and his fiancee, can you help me please?
            -- Jocelyn J

Dear Jocelyn J:
      To directly answer your question here are some options, but be sure to read the NOTE that follows, too! 
      The normal form to use on the envelope is:
            Mr. Henry Smith
            Ms. Nancy Wilson
            (Address)
      Or, if you know she uses "MISS"
            Mr. Henry Smith
            Miss Nancy Wilson
            (Address)
      NOTE:
            1) Etiquette books put an "and" between names if they are married .... no "and" if they are not.
            2) I've encountered people using 'fiancee' to describe someone with whom they are already living. If they do not live together ... it would be more correct to send each their own invitation to their individual home addresses.
            3) If the gentleman is actually the guest ... and the fiancee a date being included as a courtesy .... It would also be correct to address the invitation just to the gentleman .... and communicate you are looking forward to seeing them both at the event.  You can do this by listing them both on an inside envelope if the invitation has one ... or including a note extending the invitation to his guest.
            -- Robert Hickey

How to Address an Engaged Couple?
      How would you address an envelope to a retired pastor and his fiancee? They do not live together. He is a very dear friend, I have not yet met her.
              -- DM Keller


Dear DM Keller:
        In this case since he's a pastor his name would be first. So, if they present themselves as a couple:
                His full name on the first line
                Her full name on a second line
       In other cases her name might be first if she had higher precedence.
       If you put an and in front of her name it implies they are married, so in this case just list the names without an and.
       NOTE: If they don't present themselves as a couple ... e.g., not living together ... consider this: Most formally it may be better to address the letter to him since he's your friend, and include greetings to her in the letter itself.
    These are some rules for issuing formal invitations which present the traditional logic:
        1) Unmarried person are each issued an individual invitation, not a joint invitation
        2) An invitation is issued to one person and that person is invited to bring a guest
        3) If they present themselves as an established couple ... they are issued a joint invitation.
                   -- Robert Hickey